But then again, who wants to settle for typical? You know as well as I do that relationships are hard and most typical marriages don't last. We also know that there is a TON of hope & insight found in God's word that we can connect to our marriages. My mission is to help you grow in these two relationships with time in bible study and practical, proven tips for living life as a follower and wife.
At 15, I fell hard, admittedly like most teen girls do. Remember falling in love with your man? I was completely infatuated with this carefree, rebellious kid. He radiated swag and had the best open mouth smile I’d ever seen.
As an only child surviving my parents' divorce and in a new school I steamrolled into rebellion with this intelligent, talented, yet also broken soul. We intentionally started our own family when we were just 16. We unintentionally (unfortunately stubborn minds can also have deaf ears) paved a very hard road for ourselves.
Even though we were so crazy about each other, we fought relentlessly. We didn't know how to work things out without hateful words. We were more often frustrated, angry, hurt, and confused than happy. Sound familiar?
My husband filed for divorce two years after we got married. I thought I had feelings for someone else. This was not what either of us had signed up for. There was so much hurt and resentment in our marriage. We had no clue how to proceed with life together. Maybe you've been there too.
With the guidance and help of our family, we slowly made decisions for our marriage rather than for our own selfish interests. The divorce was dropped.
As we struggled through heartbreak after heartbreak we learned how to communicate, compromise, and commit our lives to each other day after day.
I never imagined that our teenage infatuation could grow into this kind of mature, truly devoted love that is so incredibly hard to describe in words.
And that is exactly what I want for you!
Don't misunderstand me. It was not easy! Its been said before
Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your hard.
We ended up moving and finding a church to make a fresh start. We joined a church small group for young marrieds. There we studied resources and practices for marriage along with 9 other young couples who were learning alongside us.
All of a sudden, we weren't stumbling around in the dark anymore. We had proven tools to use. And we weren't alone. We were walking alongside people in similar situations. I highly recommend it (ahem, welcome to the group!). When we were 21, we were baptized together.
It is entirely by the radical grace of God that caught our lost, yearning hearts that we are here now…a healthy, functioning family of 6. It is for the glory of God that I’d love to share the lessons I have learned over the years with you…how I’ve grown to be (truly) devoted to my Mr. & my Maker.
I will be the first to tell you that I am imperfect. I make mistakes. Like, a LOT of them! Being a wife is hard! Being a believer in this world is hard! No one is perfect. I need grace. I need unconditional love.
I think we can all agree though that what the world needs now is love (if you sang that, we’re already friends).
Be my guest – spend some more time here and get to know me. Most of all, be encouraged. For a little bit more about my saved love and testimony, head on over here.
Other than arm candy to my Mr., a former dreadhead, and mom of four, I am a graphic designer who enjoys natural and radical living, health and fitness, and photography. I prefer cats. A good red wine makes me happy.
I'd love to know - What’s your truly devoted love story??